Have you ever noticed how women often talk about their grocery shopping and food preparation?
Lady A is an expert at couponing, and tells glowing stories about getting a cart full of groceries and six bottles of Tide detergent for two dollars.
Lady B talks about eating nothing but rice and beans and whatever she can grow and preserve from her garden. Her children are as stringy as her green beans and a perfect picture of health.
Lady C plasters Facebook with her special supplements and diets and talks as though health, wealth, and prosperity are only one nutritional drink away. She genuinely glows with the new lease on life that she has been given.
And Lady D? She loads her cart with potatoes (Oh no! Starch!), chicken (Gasp! It’s not vegetarian!), and frozen vegetables (HOW COULD SHE NOT FREEZE HER OWN?). She buys a bag of chips to put in her children’s lunch for field-trip day, imagining the cholesterol clogging their developing arteries. She adds oatmeal, fruit, ranch dressing, and milk. The cart piles high, and the shame heaps even higher. So she talks about how stupid it is for others to be so strict with their diet. Everybody needs chips now and then, after all.
Meanwhile, I can’t help but think how ridiculous this all is. Couponing is awesome. Being a frugal gardener and a healthful cook is awesome. Selling supplements is awesome. And buying chips for your kids is awesome, too.
But the pride and shame and comparison that goes on over grocery shopping and food preparation is not one bit awesome.
All of these good women are trying their best to feed their families. And Satan is using the perfectly pure and natural instinct born in a woman to care for her family and twisting it with guilt and shame.
Many times, each of these (fictional, but not really) ladies are being noisy and opinionated about their skills–or lack thereof–because they are trying to drown out a sick feeling of inadequacy.
Over feeding their families.
Think about that one for a minute.
Got any better bait, Satan? You don’t think you can get women down with such an innocent thing?
You can, you say?
It’s one of the dumbest and saddest things I’ve ever heard of. And something I have most definitely been guilty of.
Ladies, whether you coupon or buy organic only or eat vegetarian only or feed your kids inordinate amounts of Dr. Pepper, don’t let Satan get you down over such a little thing. Seriously. It isn’t worth it!
Don’t listen to the great grocery guilt monster.
While other kids are hungry, homeless, and unloved, your children are bright-eyed and pink-cheeked and full of imagination and dreams. You keep their hungry tummies filled and you buy and prepare food to the best of your ability. Then you serve it up with a generous helping of love. Trust me, that is enough!
It is more than enough.
Let the shame go, and feed your family in peace.