One Sunday morning some years ago, I leaned against the back of a church pew, and with tears in my eyes confided to a friend.
This woman is a sincere Christian, even though she’s not a member of our congregation. She tries to dress like us, and faithfully comes to church. Yet she’s not allowed to have communion. Why? Isn’t Christ’s sacrifice for her, too?
My friend was taken aback. “But we have to draw the line somewhere!” she said.
I let the subject drop for the sake of peace, but those words bothered me. We have to draw the line somewhere. Even if that “somewhere” came at a terrible cost to other Christians?
This morning I read through 1 Corinthians 5 again, and noticed this verse:
But now I am writing to you not to associate with anyone who bears the name of brother if he is guilty of sexual immorality or greed, or is an idolater, reviler, drunkard, or swindler–not even to eat with such a one.
I Corinthians 5:11 (ESV)
“There is the line!” I thought. This verse does not refer to unbelievers, by the way. It’s talking about people who profess to be part of the brotherhood of faith, yet willfully engage in a sinful life. I don’t even think it’s so much the individual sins–we all have sinned–but the refusal to confess and repent, the duplicitous heart, the pretending to be good when we don’t love Jesus and our core is thoroughly rotten.
The separation that this woman experienced then, I am now also facing, and it’s hard for me to process. More than anything else, I desire the Lord. I’m not perfect by any means, and I get depressed about my own failures sometimes. Still, I can honestly say that I long for a growing relationship with God. Yet I am not allowed to have communion in certain church groups, because I am not an official member of their congregation (or an identical one). People I have known and loved for years do not welcome me to their communion table.
This makes me question. Is it because a.) congregations like this don’t follow the Bible’s perimeters for who is part of God’s church and thus eligible for communion or b.) am I actually someone who is duplicitous at heart, a sinful, immoral, greedy person?
This “closed communion” (where only specific church members can participate) is an issue that is much bigger than individuals, and I’m not trying to blame any of my friends. I think most of them would still see me as a genuine Christian. Yet I can’t help but feel the cognitive dissonance between what is verbalized and what is practiced. And practice has a way of shaping the way we think and relate, beyond what we might be aware of. Closed communion tends to drive wedges between superior Christians who are Us, and lesser Christians who are Them.
Some people seem better able to live with the dissonance than I am, but I still believe this fracturing of Christ’s body is debilitating for everyone, especially in the turbulent times we live in. A kingdom divided against itself cannot stand (Mark 3:24).
These dividing lines are extremely painful to out-of-the-shrine Christians like me, and I feel they also take the emphasis away from what communion really is–a covenant with Christ. Jesus, You gave your life for me, and now I give my life back to You. Christians coming together to remember Christ’s sacrifice, to humbly offer themselves to God, is a powerful spiritual experience.
“Is Christ divided?” Paul asked the Corinthian church when they quarreled about who was most important (I Corinthians 1:13). I wonder if he would say the same words to us today over our attempts to section off who qualifies for communion and who doesn’t.
The cup of blessing that we bless, is it not a participation in the blood of Christ? The bread that we break, is it not a participation in the body of Christ? Because there is one bread, we who are many are one body, for we all partake of the one bread.
I Corinthians 10:16-17 (ESV) emphasis mine
We are one body, experiencing the mercy of a holy God.
I plead with you, consider what message your current communion practice communicates to other Christians. Look for ways to reduce the dissonance if it exists. Life is too short for division within the family of Christ.
But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses us from all sin.
I John 1:7 (ESV)
What does communion with Christ’s body of believers mean to you?
You can read a more in-depth article (written by Simon Fry) about communion here.
EDIT: Within hours of publishing this post, I got an email from a young man who belongs to a conservative Mennonite group, inviting us to join them for communion on Sunday! I am deeply touched–the invitation means more than I can say.